There are few things more painful than going through a divorce. You may even feel like someone has died, and a divorce often represents the death of your relationship. If you’re going through a divorce, here are some tips which can help you get through it:
Be honest with your lawyer
One of the worst things that a lawyer can experience is when they go to court and learn negative information about you. It’s imperative that you share everything there is to know about your marriage and subsequent breakup. If you’re in NSW, look for to help you get through this tough time.
Accept the stress
For many people, they assume that the decision to get a divorce is the hardest part. However the stress you can expect from a divorce, or a custody battle is likely to be unlike any other stress you’ve experienced. You may need to consider getting some counselling to help you get through this time.
Get ready to wait
Most divorces are lengthy. While you may be ready to put that part of your life behind you, divorce is rarely resolved quickly. The legal process is often very slow, and will depend on the complexity or number of the issues in your case and how hostile both you and your ex are.
It may take a long time before you feel ok
Some people find that they do ok throughout the divorce process, and then the full impact of everything hits them two years later. Others find that they can barely function for that first year after the divorce. There are a number of therapists who specialise in divorce and family issues, and it may even be an idea to choose one who is divorced themselves so they can empathise with what you’re going through.
Look at your finances
Almost half of all divorces are at least partially about money. That means you need to dig deeply into all of your finances. That means getting as much information about all of your accounts, including the online passwords, where the money is invested, which accounts have automatic payments, the names of all of your accounts, and any investment advisors. Talk to your attorney about how and when you should gather this information. Keep in mind that as soon as your ex hears you say you want a divorce, they may be prepared to go in and clean out those joint accounts. Make sure you have enough money to get by, and be prepared to grab half of everything if things go south.
Consider your future living expenses
Your financial well-being is crucial- both now and in the future. While legalities will eventually be completed and those emotions will heal, any financial impact of emotional or poor decisions, or bad decisions due to a lack of understanding could last a lifetime. Understand your current and future costs of living before you start divorce proceedings.