If you feel like you’re dealing with a quarter life crisis, you’re not alone. Many people experience feelings of anxiety and self doubt over the quality and direction of their life in their twenties and early thirties.
Millennials have had a tough time. From sky high rents, the unattainable cost of entering the property market, and the post-recession job market, it’s not surprising that many are questioning their life choices and career path.
Social media doesn’t help, when it seems like absolutely everyone else has it all together. In reality, many of your friends and acquaintances are likely to be experiencing the same feelings- even if they’re not showing it.
Here are some tips for dealing with a quarter life crisis:
Stop playing the comparison game
One of the best ways to increase feelings of underachievement and disappointment is to compare your experiences to your peers. Sure, one of your friends may be permanently travelling, but they may be years behind you in their careers. And another may be strides ahead of you in their career, but they not have had a vacation in years. Everyone is at different stages in their life journey, and comparing yourself to others isn’t helpful. Instead, write down some notes about what you consider success to be for yourself.
Talk about it
Once you begin talking to others about your feelings, you’ll be surprised how many of them are feeling the exact same way- even if it seems like they have a perfect life on their social media feeds.
If you’re still feeling anxious or depressed, it can be worth talking to a therapist or counsellor who specialises in your age group or issues, as they can give you smart, unbiased advice.
Talk to a numerologist
A numerologist can be hugely helpful when it comes to your quarter life crisis. That’s because they can give you direction and help you ask the right questions. Often, you won’t know which directions are open to you until someone introduces some new options based on the special meanings of the numbers related to you.
Write down your goals
Sure, you may feel directionless now, but you still probably have a relatively good idea of what you want from your life. Maybe you’ve always wanted to travel, or you’d like to own a home one day. Perhaps you want children. Whatever it is, make a list of the things you’d like to work towards. Then, make a list of all of the things you’re grateful with right now. Keep both lists somewhere where you can see them to keep you accountable- and grateful.